Former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay is offering an update after completing her spousal support payments to ex-husband Bryan Abasolo.
“I’m free, and I feel like I felt powerless that I didn’t have a prenup,” Lindsay, 40, said on the Thursday, February 12, episode of the “Pop Syllabus” podcast. “He took so much from me, but I felt powerful that I was able to do it in a year, like, ‘I paid you off, I’m still here, I’m still surviving.’”
Lindsay and Abasolo, 45, separated in late 2023 after four years of marriage, eventually finalizing their divorce in January 2025. In the divorce decree, Lindsay was ordered to pay Abasolo $13,257 each month in temporary alimony, $15,000 for his attorney’s fees and $5,000 for forensic expert expenses.
Lindsay made her final support payment last month.
“Finally free 💰💸,” Lindsay wrote via Instagram on January 20. “Closing one chapter, literally writing the next ☺️.”
While speaking on the “Pop Syllabus” podcast, the former attorney noted it was “hard” to make her payments to Abasolo.
“He was ruthless about it, there was no compromising,” she alleged. “I want to write all about it. I do want to tell that story, but I want the divorce book that I was looking for. I want to talk about another book of essays. … I want to tell [readers] in each essay a story about what happened.”
Lindsay said she wants to write a book of essays highlighting her post-divorce community, as well as the “societal pressures” that drove her to marriage in the first place, shame and figuring out her next steps.
“I want to talk about dating in my 40s. I was 39 when I got divorced. What does that look like?” she said. “I want to talk about fertility. I’ve never told that story.”
Abasolo, who proposed to Lindsay on The Bachelorette season 13, previously made a rare comment about what led to their breakup in July 2024.
“We didn’t spend enough time with each other,” Abasolo said on divorce coach Rene Garcia’s YouTube series at the time. “I mean, in my estimation, we saw what the other person was doing in the relationship, mainly on Instagram, although we lived in the same house. I was thinking about divorce because I had already asked for a separation a few months back. I was sleeping in a different bedroom. We were already going to marriage counseling.”
Lindsay, for her part, thought some of Abasolo’s comments were too “personal” to share.
“[He] opened the door, so let’s talk about it,” she said on Thursday’s episode. “This could have gone completely differently [and] could have been a private divorce. We could have done private mediation, we could have had a private judge [or] I could have given you money secretly, you could have held onto your reputation. All of it, [but] that is not what happened.”
Lindsay continued, “My divorce was public and messy for a reason. Learn from me. It’s not as simple as getting a prenup. It’s just the pressures that we feel as a woman at a certain age.”
