As Whitney Port navigates her ongoing fertility journey, it’s been especially heartwrenching to watch her husband, Tim Rosenman, also go through the highs and lows.
“I think for me, it’s really watching Timmy’s heartbreak,” Port, 40, exclusively told Us Weekly at the Reality TV Greats dinner hosted by Threads and Dear Media on Wednesday, March 18. “It’s one thing for me to hold my own, and I feel like I know how to cope with that and how to calm myself down.”
She continued, “But then, to see my partner, who I love so much, [and] I just don’t know what to say or don’t have the answer for. I look at him as, like, such a rock and someone that I lean on for so much that it breaks my heart to see that.”
The Hills alum and Rosenman, 45, welcomed son Sonny in 2017 before Port suffered multiple pregnancy losses while trying to expand their family. As she dealt with secondary infertility, Port and Rosenman decided in 2023 to explore surrogacy.
Port and Rosenman have since matched with multiple miscarriages, many of whom suffered miscarriages after the couple’s embryos were implanted. Their most recent surrogate underwent another embryo transfer last month.
“We actually [just did] a third transfer with the second surrogate, and it didn’t stick this time, but we are going to try again,” Port told Us at Wednesday’s event held at Alba in West Hollywood, where she was joined by other reality icons Kathy Hilton, Sutton Stracke, Cynthia Bailey and Scheana Shay. “It’s been a journey. It’s, like, one of those things where the emotions about it come in waves.”
She added, “Honestly, what I’ve learned in this past seven years through going through this journey is, like, I mean, this sounds easy now, but turning to what my reality is at this point and if that is what it is, like, how amazing that is, and how grateful I am for that.”
According to Port, “turning into gratitude” has given her a sense of peace about her family’s future.
“It’s so cheesy and so cliché but turning into gratitude has really made me become at peace with whatever happens,” she said on Wednesday. “We have two more embryos, so we’re trying to keep hopes up.”
As Port and Rosenman await the next implantation, the reality TV vet is focused on maintaining a positive outlook.
“In these in-between phases, while we’re waiting to do the implantation, I just try to stay positive, work hard, stick to my routine and not hyper-focus on it,” she said. “I think it’s so easy to spiral, and there’s just no use in spiraling about something that you have zero control over. So right now, I’m in a calm state and just feeling hopeful for the next step.”
While Port and Rosenman hope for the best, they’ve also come to terms with the possibility that the remaining transfers might not be successful.
“We will grieve the possibility and grieve the life that we wanted,” Port stated. “But, it will not stop us from making the most of our life and having a completely full, fulfilling life.”
Port further shared a message for other individuals also struggling with fertility issues.
“I think the biggest thing is trying to take the shame and the self-blame out of everything,” Port told Us. “It’s such a natural thing for us to listen to those mean voices in our head that are telling us or asking us what we could have done, or what we could have done [differently] or spiraling. I think it’s important that we connect to the fact that there really isn’t any control that we have at a certain point.”
She concluded, “To be able to share my story was never something I thought I’d be as vulnerable doing, just because even when I was on the [The Hills], I feel like I was a little bit guarded. Now I have this camaraderie around something that’s been so hard for me, is what I do it for.”
