Amanda Batula broke down exactly what led to her and Kyle Cooke’s sexless marriage — and eventual split — on the In the City reunion.
“I was depressed. Depression will do that. That was part of it,” Amanda, 34, shared on the Tuesday, July 28, episode of the hit Bravo series when asked about why she and estranged husband, Kyle, 43, didn’t have sex for four years before their January announcement confirming the pair had called it quits.
Kyle chimed in, claiming, “We went into a funk immediately after our wedding.”
The Loverboy founder alleged, “I tried for years to get us into couples therapy” following their September 2021 nuptials.
Amanda, for her part, told their castmates during part 2 of the In the City reunion that their issues in the bedroom began well before they tied the knot.
“This is a conversation we had in therapy also before our wedding, that I didn’t feel like — Kyle wasn’t courting me. This is how I felt,” Amanda explained. “I wasn’t being courted. There were no dates.”
She claimed, “He would work all day, work all night, then come to bed, tell me to answer an email and then try to have sex with me. It felt like there was no foreplay. There was no emotional intimacy. There was no conversation.”
Amanda noted that because “nothing else [was] happening in the relationship” she didn’t feel excited to engage in intimate moments with her spouse.
“I felt, this was not his intention or what he was doing, I felt [used]. I felt like I was just an object at that point,” Amanda confessed. “Then the depression hit also. Then it was an unfortunate storm.”
The Amanda Batula Swim founder alleged that Kyle would “still go out” and party — in addition to DJing into the late hours — so they would “get into big fights.”
That tension, according to Amanda, didn’t help their romantic relationship prior to their separation. (During season 1 of In the City, fans learned that Amanda told Kyle she was moving out in September 2025 on their four-year anniversary in hopes to help their marriage, but she never moved back in.)
“Can you imagine, this is not like a guy-girl thing. We get married and we never have sex,” Kyle asked his castmates. “We didn’t have sex — technically it wasn’t four years of nothing. We had, like, sex three times. I’m just saying.”
Amanda, however, claimed that she “expressed” her desires to him, and allegedly told Kyle “I want to be taken out on dates” and go for drinks but he was too busy.
“First I’m a workaholic, now I’m an alcoholic. I could never do anything,” a defeated Kyle explained. “Meanwhile, I’m providing. Everything in our life was on my shoulders.”
Kyle alleged that “every single thing we did” was because he “arranged it,” including every trip, vacation or dinner.
“I’m putting in the hours [then] so we could provide for our family later,” he said of his intentions to work so much when they first got married.
Amanda explained that was her whole point, arguing, “I was being put on the backburner.”
“It did take a toll on our romantic and intimate relationship because your priority was work,” she alleged. “And your solution was for me to read a book on how to date an entrepreneur and I wanted you to take me on a date.”
Kyle admitted that he did want Amanda to read a book about that topic, thinking it would help her understand his intense work ethic while building Loverboy.
“You’re literally saying exactly what I’m saying,” Amanda pointed out. “You worked really hard for our future but it did have an effect on our marriage and our relationship.”
Fans were introduced to Kyle in 2017 during season 1 of Summer House, when he was a full-time cast member of the new series. Amanda also appeared on the first season of the Bravo show, but was a guest star as she was just starting to date Kyle.
Throughout the show’s first 10 seasons, viewers saw the ups and downs of Kyle and Amanda’s relationship, including their 2021 wedding and the months leading up to their January breakup.
As cameras began to document Kyle and Amanda’s life in the Big Apple during the fall of 2025 for In the City, the couple grew further apart.
Shortly after they announced their split, rumors surfaced that Amanda was dating their Summer House costar West Wilson. (West, 31, previously dated Amanda’s BFF Ciara Miller in 2023 and the pair were seen getting cozy again in summer and fall of 2025.)
Amanda and West initially denied their connection, but confirmed their romantic relationship in late March, sending shockwaves through the Bravoverse. At the time of the In the City reunion taping in June, Amanda and West were still dating despite the backlash they received for their hookup.
Us confirmed last month that neither Amanda nor West are returning for season 11 of Summer House, but Kyle is coming back to the Hamptons.
On Tuesday’s reunion, Amanda and Kyle gave an update on their divorce, confirming it is still ongoing.
“He did respond to my lawyer with some requests,” Amanda told host Andy Cohen of Kyle. “He wants to do a walkaway divorce but is not just walking away. I have to speak to my lawyer and get back to him.”
Kyle claimed those “requests” were not that crazy, saying one of them was that he wants Amanda to “get your stuff out of my apartment.”
He said the other thing is “dog related” as the exes share two animals.
“There’s also money stuff,” Amanda alleged, to which Kyle responded, “I still pay your health insurance!” Amanda smiled, replying, “Thank you so much.”
